i’ve been thinking about my single status a bit more than usual recently. while i don’t think it’s because of any single factor, i think it’s a combination of things including the holidays (which always have a way of making me feel lonely), my best friend’s wedding (which was great fun, by the way), and that i tend to go through cycles and i’d been in a pretty content cycle for awhile.
anyway, i don’t have any intention of putting self-obsessed, whiny, why me posts up here. first off because i think that we’ve gotta work with what we’re dealt. and second because i think there’s a lot of value in being single. and, unfortunately, the church has largely done a crappy job at making marriage an expectation rather than a gift. but all that’s for another post.
one of the things that i was thinking of through all of this was how very little there is out there from folks walking through singleness. there seems to be plenty of books written by now happily married people, advising single people how to be contentedly single. which seems a tad ironic. and there’s lots of stuff for people that are married…young married’s classes, marriage retreats, etc. but what about those of us that, while being willing to pursue a relationship, don’t feel the need to have it be our all consuming focus. but still need help processing, living, thinking in balanced ways. so i’d thought maybe it would be a topic worth posting about occasionally on here. not because i have much of anything sorted out, but maybe just for others to empathize with.
but i kind of put it on the back burner until today when, while searching for an article about Snow Patrol, i stumbled across this article on Relevant. i thought it was really freeing. maybe a bit self-centered at times, but actually pretty balanced if you read the whole thing. and really, really freeing. anyway…if you’re single & are looking for a bit of encouragement, i hope you’ll enjoy this.